So what happened. Some of you know this and some don't. Long story short, I was yanked into my former boss's office one day and was told that if I wanted to keep that blog up (a blog I was maintaining on my own time and with my own resources) that they were going to require me to run every post through them so that they could edit it and sign off on it before it was posted. They referred to this as "helping me" and said they could do it because "my job was my identity". The real reason, of course, is that I'm opinionated as hell and they didn't want me to be (military school mentality - if you're not a sheep, you're asking for trouble). Now, those who know me know that noting drives me more batty than censorship so I went home that night, had a few cocktails and up and deleted the thing. I also decided that it was time for me to quit my job and honestly wasn't sure if I even wanted to be in higher ed anymore, the whole thing just left such a sour taste in my mouth. I didn't tell anyone what was going on (except Matt because I had been scheduled to present with him at HighEdWebDev and needed to pull out). I don't regret deleting the blog. To me, taking an ethical stance is far more important than maintaining an online identity and I wouldn't have been able to live with myself if I had allowed the "editing" to occur. What I *d0* regret is not saving any of my posts from it so when I decided to start this one, I was starting over again from scratch.
So why do I tell this story - when I first started this blog about a few months later, I was scared as hell. If you look back to earlier posts (and before I had my bio up or anything), you'll see that I never mentioned where I worked by name. I really liked my new job (and still do!) but still hadn't quite adjusted to the fact that I wasn't working at a military school any longer and that it was now OK to have an opinion. I didn't want to ruffle any feathers so my posts for the first few months were really quite innocuous. Eventually, I calmed down. My boss is amazingly supportive, even when she disagrees or doesn't understand something I've posted. Instead of insisting that she should be allowed to edit my blog, we have a discussion about it. We may not end up agreeing, but that's OK. Now I feel completely comfortable coming on here and expressing a point of view, which I think makes the blog far more interesting than it was when I first started.
What I've learned about blogging in the last 6 months:
- You need to blog for yourself - not for anyone else. A blog is a labor of love in a lot of respects and if you're going to do it, you shouldn't even bend to the whim of what you think other people want you to write about.
- Post often. It's near impossible to post every day (I tried it for a while!) but you also can't let a month go by without a post if you actually want people to be engaged.
- Respond to comments. I'm always amazed when I go to blogs and the authors never respond to readers comments! Why even start a blog if you don't want to have conversations?
- People are going to disagree with you - and that's OK. I actually had already learned this lesson from political blogging. I joke a lot that I'm the "higher ed web bitch" so expressing further opinions that I know people are going to disagree with is easy. I'm not threatened when people don't feel the same way I do about an issue, but a lot of people out there are. Still, if everyone agrees all the time, what's the point in talking in the first place?
- For some people, content doesn't matter. This was a new one for me and one I'm hoping to move beyond at this point - to some people, the content of what I say actually matters less than how long I've owned this domain name. I'm not considered a reputable source of information until I've been around for 6 months. Sad but true.
My Favorite Blogs from the past 6 months
(in order of date they were posted)
- MIT Does it Right (this isn't really a substantive post, but it is a really fun game that you should all go play.)
- Email Basics
- Live blogging the Edward Tufte Seminar, Part 1 and Part 2
- Show Me The Money!!!!!
- The Wired Wealthy Report: Review and Takeaways
- Assigning Value to Determine ROI
- It's Your Job to be In The Know
- Building an admissions email marketing plan, part 1: The Five Commandments
- Integrating print, web and email
- Segmenting and integrating Facebook Social Ads
- An Event Apart, Day 1 and Day 2 and reflections
- Numbers mean nothing without context
And thanks to those who read :-)
I'm humbled by the people who read this blog and the feedback I get from you. I always say that I do this for myself (and I do) but it truly makes it worthwhile to know that I've helped people to think about things in different ways. Some people who blog consider themselves to be influencers or rock stars or whatever...I'm none of that. I'm just a girl sitting in an office or at home on her couch hacking away at a computer and am amazed that people find my musings worthwhile enough to spend time reading. I hope I can give you another 6 months worth of valuable material (and maybe even a bit more than that if I'm lucky!).
So thanks. You rock my world :-)
Karlyn
17 comments:
And here I thought you just didn't like Rochester or Matt - explains abit.
As a fan of your old blog, this new incarnation is quite refreshing with extra bit of 'tude and sass.
One of the great thing you, Kyle, and Drew is bring high ed the untarnished numbers that help all of us promote or initiatives.
And you Karlyn, give us statistics with style.
I've been debating starting up a blog since Kyle's challenge, and been wondering if I do whether to bring it to the attention of higher ups. Like you, almost a year ago I started a blog and got called into the VP's office almost the same week. Partly my fault for a poor domain choice, but it burned me good and that blog was promptly taken down after 3 posts.
So did you actively tell your new boss when you started this one?
Hi Jon,
Everyone seems to think that Matt and I have this big feud going on but nothing could be further from the truth. I was REALLY bummed about missing HighEdWebDev and talk to him all the time on IM.
Yes, my boss knew that I had registered the domain and was going to start blogging again. I didn't make a big deal out of it....just told her in passing. She actually refused to read it for a long time to "give me my space", which I thought was really cool. She reads it sometimes now and even offers suggestions. It helps that she's a blogger too (www.engagingexperience.com) so she "gets it".
I'm almost glad to know that others have had the same experience as me. It does really burn you for a while. I say give it another try....I'm glad I did!
Never had the pleasure of reading your first higher ed blog, or your political blog, but I applaud your decision to kill your darlings. I have two other blogs on life support that have nothing to do with higher ed, marketing, PR, or any of that. (One was a personal blog that just turned into no fun, the other a book-in-progress that hasn't progressed much over the past year, but that I hope to get back to someday, when the passion for writing about that particular subject returns.)
My problem is, I can't kill my darlings. So I let them languish, unread, untended, contributing to the inflated numbers of Technorati blog stats.
I also suck at responding to readers' comments. I should do a better job at that, don't you think? (I assume you'll respond to that question.) ;)
Hi Andrew,
Yes, you should always respond :-)
It was hard for me to kill it, hence the need for cocktails beforehand!
K
Hi Karlyn,
I just stumbled onto your blog yesterday while at eduweb. Great work and keep it up!
-Drew
Hi Drew,
Thanks! I hope you find something valuable here :-)
K
I can definitely understand your problems with your former blog. I really enjoyed it and I'm really glad you're back on the blogosphere.
I can only imagine what might happen if I started a blog. Sometimes we get flak just for sharing our opinion in the office.
Hi Nick,
I maintain that you should be like the masked avenger and to is anonymously :-)
K
@Jon - Start a blog, send me a URL, and I can't wait to start reading it!
@Karlyn - Your humbled and grateful that people enjoy your blog!! WOW! I think maybe I've worn off on you!? Your still the "High Ed Web Bitch" but I thought that's how you like it? :) Oh and yeah you can think me for sending the people to your blog through the presentation.
.eduGuru has spoken and is OUT...
Hi Kyle,
I didn't say I was grateful. That implies something entirely different than humbled. I'm not going to beg people to read my blog. I'm moreso shocked that people think its any good, which I've discussed with you on IM before so don't even front.
I've embraced being the bitch because its the only option given to women who have opinions. I'm going to be labeled the bitch either way, so why not just accept it and go with it?
Actually the presentation pimp didn't get me any visitors....the posts in the blog afterwards did, which I will thank you for.
I hope you make it out of philly tonight. Had I known what was going on last night, I could have hooked you guys up with a room at my brother's place. Unfortunately he left today and is driving up here for the weekend :-(
Karlyn, I've enjoyed following your blog over the last six months.
While reading your blog, I am reminded of the chapter from Jaffe's book "Join the Conversation" on the "Ten Tenets of Good Conversation". Tenet #8 is "Good conversation is heated:
"Conversation between two or more people that occurs within a community of like-minded thinkers who are in total agreement is pretty benign and bland. It's arguably not even a conversation but just consensus."
"Great conversation is heated. The heat of passion, mixed with diversity of opinion, makes for an original exchange of viewpoints, attitudes, and perspectives."
Keep up the great work.
Hi Mark,
Thanks for your comment. I really cut my teeth with hardcore blogging when I was political blogging on MySpace (had over 2,000 readers on a typical day, hundreds of comments debating the issue on every post). In that world, you accept that you're going to disagree with people and it's OK most of the time. You'll debate and then go get a beer afterwards and it's all good.
One of the things I find so frustrating about higher ed is that people are almost afraid to disagree and, if you disagree with someone, you're somehow making a personal attack on them. I see disagree as great and fun. We all have different experiences and none of us is right 100% of the time so by having debates with people, you really end up helping yourself out in the long run by clarifying or evolving what it is you believe. You learn far more by having to defend your beliefs, and sometimes you find that there is no defense at all and allow them to evolve.
Karlyn
HI Sean,
I just looked up the conversation you referenced and what I SAID was the following:
"Aren't we all basically self-made? I don't think there are many of us who've had a roadmap to follow....but that's what keeps it interesting right? Welcome to the list!"
I think that's very important to clarify because you just made a public accusation against me. In no way does it say you are no one special and aren't doing anything special as it doesn't remotely do any commentary on who you are and what you're doing. And I'm sorry because the rest of your comment is nice, but I'm going to really take issue with the way you started it off because it's statements like this that completely exaggerate things I say that result in me being perceived as the bitch. It doesn't affect you at all - it does affect me. The simple fact is that a lot of us have no roadmap to follow so, no, it's NOT a special thing. That's not a personal attack on you, as I don't even know you and would never personally attack someone I don't know.
Like I said, the rest of your comment is great and its much appreciated...
K
I've reconsidered my previous comment and submit this: I read (your blog) consistently because it's so entertaining and informative. (No offense to some of you other guys who also have some cool blogs.) You present things in a way that beginners and adepts alike can benefit. Even your longer posts are so well organized and on point that they feel brief, leaving me eager to see your next posting. I envy and benefit from your abilities, which you share via the blog. I hope you keep blogging well beyond another 6 months. Despite all that, I can't imagine what Kyle James was thinking! :)
http://www.karlynmorissette.com/2008/07/kyle-james-admits-im-always-right.html
I guess I should I add that I deleted my original post because it's entirely possible that I misinterpreted Karlyn's messages to me during our first electronic communication. Who hasn't had that experience at least once? All I really wanted to say and should've said is that Karlyn's blog kicks ass, and I hope it keeps on kicking ass for a long time.
Karlyn - Thanks for telling your story. I've wondered all this time what happened to the other blog, although I suspected something like what you describe. I had a similar situation in another job (not higher ed) which I, too, have since moved on from.
Makes one hesitant to go at it again, but I'm glad you have. I have, too, but much more cautiously!
Thanks for your insights - some of which I have passed on to my bosses, who have come to view you being authoritative!
kathleen
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